About Me

How I Work

Welcome, and thank you for visiting my page. My name is Bobby, and I am a qualified counsellor based in the UK. I hold a master’s degree and have completed an integrative counselling course, alongside further training in psychosynthesis. My specialism is in trauma, but my work extends beyond this, helping individuals navigate their emotions, understand their experiences, and ultimately find a deeper connection with themselves.

I have always been deeply curious about the way people think, feel, and behave. I like to figure things out—and even more so, I like to help others figure things out. I believe that at the heart of therapy is the ability to explore, question, and reflect. My strength lies in creating a space where my clients can do this at their own pace, without pressure or expectation. Even if someone chooses not to answer a question in the moment, that’s completely fine. The very act of hearing a question can plant a seed, allowing exploration to take place naturally when the time is right.

My Approach to Counselling

In my practice, I take an integrative approach, meaning that I draw from different therapeutic models to tailor the work to each individual. No two people are the same, and I believe therapy should reflect that. I use elements of psychosynthesis, person-centred therapy, and psychodynamic approaches, but at the core of all my work is deep respect for each client’s unique process.

A key part of my work is asking open-ended questions to expand a person’s awareness and perspective. Some may find this approach challenging, even intrusive at times, but I believe that real growth often emerges from moments of discomfort. When we avoid difficult emotions, we lose the opportunity to understand them—and in turn, ourselves. My role is to gently guide my clients back to their present experience, helping them to sit with what arises rather than running to the past or the future as a means of escape.

This process can feel intense, even gruelling at first, but with time and practice, it becomes a powerful tool for transformation. When we learn to pay attention to our feelings rather than dismissing or suppressing them, we gain access to an invaluable source of information—one that can guide us towards making decisions that are more aligned with our true selves.

The Power of Emotions in Decision-Making

Many people rely solely on their thoughts to make decisions, without fully engaging with their emotions. But our emotions carry messages—messages that, if ignored, can lead us to make choices that don’t serve us.

For example, imagine you meet someone who seems kind, friendly, and likeable on the surface. Your mind may tell you that this person is a good fit for you in some way—perhaps as a friend, a partner, or a colleague. However, if your body responds differently—if you feel uneasy, unsettled, or simply "off" around them—your emotions may be offering a deeper truth. That discomfort is a signal, telling you that something isn’t quite right, even if you can’t immediately pinpoint why.

This is the key difference between purely thinking through an issue and allowing yourself to feel through it. Your emotions provide a second layer of insight, one that many people suppress or disregard because it feels uncomfortable. But in ignoring these signals, we risk making choices that don’t align with our well-being, leading us into situations that may not be safe, fulfilling, or healthy.

By learning to tune into these emotions rather than pushing them away, we can make decisions that are not only rational but also deeply aligned with our inner truth. This balance between head and heart—between logic and intuition—is where clarity and self-trust begin to develop.

Many people rely only on rational thinking when making decisions, ignoring emotional signals. Emotions carry important messages that can reveal deeper truths about situations and people. Discomfort or unease can be a warning sign, even if we can’t logically explain it. Suppressing emotions can lead to misaligned choices that don’t serve our well-being. True clarity comes from balancing logic and intuition, allowing for decisions that feel both rational and right.

Helping Clients Stay with Their Emotions

Much of my work involves helping people stay present with their emotions, even when they feel overwhelming. When we experience distress, our instinct is often to escape—to analyse, rationalise, or distract ourselves with the past or future. But real healing happens in the present moment.

By gently guiding clients to recognise their patterns of avoidance, I help them become more aware of how they respond to difficult emotions. With time, they learn that sitting with discomfort isn’t something to fear—it’s something that, when done with care and support, can lead to profound self-discovery and transformation.

At first, this process may feel challenging. Facing emotions head-on requires courage, patience, and practice. But as my clients develop this skill, they often find that the very thing they once tried to avoid becomes a powerful source of insight. The ability to stay with emotions, rather than running from them, allows for deeper self-understanding and ultimately leads to greater emotional resilience.

• Many people instinctively avoid difficult emotions by analysing, rationalising, or distracting themselves.

• True healing happens in the present moment, not in escaping discomfort.

• I help clients recognize their patterns of emotional avoidance and gently guide them to stay present.

• Over time, they learn that sitting with emotions—instead of fearing them—leads to self-discovery and transformation.

• This practice fosters greater emotional resilience and a deeper understanding of the self.

Final Thoughts

Therapy is a journey—one that unfolds uniquely for each person. My role is not to provide all the answers but to help you discover them for yourself. Through exploring your emotions, staying present with your experience, and learning to trust your own inner wisdom, you can begin to make choices that truly align with who you are.

It takes courage to face yourself honestly, to sit with discomfort, and to listen deeply to what your emotions are telling you. But in doing so, you open the door to a richer, more authentic way of living—one that is guided not just by thought, but by the deep intelligence of your whole self.

If you’re ready to explore this journey, I would be honoured to walk alongside you. Feel free to reach out—I’d love to hear from you.

Or alternatively, email me: info@hybridcounsellingandcoahing.com 

Or call 07383 933 387